Turtle Mom Wedding Whinesday: Wedding Planning in the Digital Age

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I got married before the digital age hit. We did the old-fashioned thing — paper invitations, phone calls (on phones with rotary dials!), going to individual stores to register for gifts.

Daughter has a wedding website (complete with section for RSVP and gift registry). Guests can get updates online (in theory, I’m not sure she’s been keeping it up as she is very busy in her work and wedding planning, not to mention with her new puppy).

Since I’m involved in the whole Daughter-getting-married thing, I’ve become aware of this digital twist to the planning. My blog is one angle — 30 years ago, I don’t know how I’d have flogged books to fund the wedding without using up a lot of gas and paying long distance charges as I wore out the dialer on the rotary phone. I think some of it feels more personal (it is nice to see updates and little tidbits of what is going on as the planning progresses). Some of it feels less personal (still not sure if digital RSVP is better or worse — although I’m personally more likely to RSVP online than actually mail back an RSVP, which is not to my credit, I admit).

But it wasn’t until I was browsing FlipBoard (best app ever) on my iPad (best tablet ever) this week that I realized the digital twist to wedding planning is mainstream now: Mashable actually had an article on How to Plan the Perfect Wedding Online. Mashable. (a website that focuses on social media news, for those who don’t know).

Browsing their top suggestions (Pinterest used as a way to get/share dress/decoration ideas; Turntabl.fm for crowd-sourcing your music choices with your guests…if you trust them), I realized that I approve of this new way of bringing guests into the fun of planning. A wedding can be a small community of 10 people, or a larger one of 200 people, but it is a community. The more a community shares, the more they each take away from the sharing. Sharing doesn’t have to be limited to the day itself any longer, and that’s a good thing.

Now, I know there is a downside, so I’m not suggesting that the bride should have a poll about which dress to choose — tastes vary and every bride deserves the dress she wants, and to hear nothing but “You’re going to look beautiful in that.” But for her to share why she picked the cake choice she did, or the venue, or photographer? Or even to ask each guest to choose their favorite song to be played at the reception? Isn’t that a good way to make everyone feel like an important part of the big day?

Well, at least those who are online. The rest will have to look at the display when the come to the wedding. It will be on my iPad, for all the non-digital world to see.

P.S. Mashable also has an article on the 10 Best iPhone Apps for Wedding. I downloaded all the free ones.



About Kelly McClymer

Kelly is a writer, a mom, and a reading tutor for children with dyslexia. Plus, she is totally addicted to her iPad. Curse you, Steve Jobs.